Verdie and Norma: A Love Story

Verdie Ellingson has always loved Valentine’s Day. In fact, he has a frame holding eight valentines he received as a child at his country school in Chippewa County, Minnesota.

Later in life, Valentine’s Day would be when he proposed to his future wife Norma. And today, he still celebrates by sending valentines to family and friends and decorating the drift wood Valentine’s tree that Norma saw in a store and had to have.

Verdie and Norma’s romance started long before it became official. In 1944, Verdie attended a “basket social” at the country school where his sister Sylvia was a teacher. At a basket social, the girls would bring a basket containing a picnic lunch. The baskets were auctioned to raise money for the school. Sylvia tipped Verdie off as to which basket was Norma’s. He bid on it, won and had the privilege of having lunch with Norma that day. He went as far as to ask if he could give her a ride home, but her mother refused, being Norma was only 14 and Verdie was 20.

A couple of years later, Verdie was home on leave from his military service and went to a dance where he saw Norma. The two danced and visited and this time Verdie did give Norma a ride home. After that, Verdie went back to serving in World War II. Norma regularly sent him letters while he was gone.

Upon his return, Verdie was determined to finish college. After graduation, he took at teaching job in southern Minnesota. During Thanksgiving break, Sylvia once again played a role in Verdie and Norma connecting. Sylvia was married to Norma’s brother and wanted Norma to come home for Thanksgiving. She asked Verdie if he could pick up Norma in the Twin Cities where she was attending nursing school. He agreed. That ride sealed their fate. The two started seriously dating and on Valentine’s Day of 1952, Verdie proposed and Norma accepted, and as Verdie says, they “lived happily ever after.”

The two would spend almost 50 years together, Verdie always in love with Norma, just like a fairytale love story. “She was easy to love and she made it so I was easy to love, too,” says Verdie.

Verdie worked as a teacher, then an administrator and then a school superintendent. Norma worked as a nurse. Together they had four children and 10 grandchildren. When the couple retired, they moved to Moorhead to be close to their son.

When Norma needed more care due to her rheumatoid arthritis, the couple moved to Eventide on Eighth, where Verdie continues to live today, still celebrating Valentine’s Day.

Eventide Fargo Offering Winter Move-In Special!

Reserve an apartment by March 1 and get your third month’s rent free!

At Eventide, we take living personally.Eventide’s senior living apartments provide residents with a safe, supportive and stress-free environment that keeps them socially involved, physically active and intellectually stimulated. We encourage you to eat healthy, stay busy, meet new people, go places, do things and keep smiling. Customized services are available based on individualized nursing evaluations.Senior living apartments include:

  • DailyL83A8916 continental breakfast
  • 30 meals/month (to be used at noon or evening)
  • Utilities
  • Cable TV
  • Emergency call system pendant
  • Weekly housekeeping
  • Washer and dryer in each unit
  • 24 hour professional staff
  • Scheduled activities
  • Daily wellness check
  • Scheduled transportation service
  • Wellness Center
  • Off street parking with plug-ins
  • Routine apartment maintenance
  • Scheduled RN hours and on-call staff consultation

It’s a vibrant, secure lifestyle, filled with friends and activities!

Call today! 701.478.1744.

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Consider Eventide Foundation on Giving Hearts Day – Feb. 9!

You make a difference in the lives of our residents! Your gifts help us to enhance resident programming and activities so that every resident can continue to live their lives to the fullest! Please remember Eventide Foundation on Giving Hearts Day. Match funding multiplies the impact of your giving. Your gift of $10 or more will be matched up to $11,000. Make your gift count! Donate at givingheartsday.org on Feb. 9th.

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What Types of Home Care Are Available?

There are basically three kinds of home care: skilled home health care, non-skilled home health care and homemaking duties.

Skilled home health care is prescribed by a doctor when someone has a short-term need for nursing care, therapy or support services. A typical situation is that someone has been hospitalized and must continue healing at home.

Research shows that patients recovering from illness, injury or surgery heal more quickly and more successfully at home, says Cassie Mack, director of Ethos Home Care (a partnership of Eventide, Bethany and Knute Nelson).

Ethos provides skilled nursing care (management of chronic illness, IV therapy, wound management, medication management and education), home health aide services (to assist with activities of daily living), and therapy services (physical therapy, occupational therapy and speech therapy) at home.

“A large focus area for our clinicians is providing education to clients and their families”, Mack says. “Safety is very important to us. Often our physical therapists and occupational therapists will complete a one-time safety evaluation to ensure the client has what they need to remain safe in their home.”

Ethos also offers technology systems to help keep aging seniors safe at home. For example, a personal alert system can be used to alert someone should the senior fall. Or maybe a tool is needed to assist with medication management.

“Our whole philosophy is that you are your best advocate and the owner of your health,” says Tammy Lopez, community liaison for Ethos. “We do what we can to honor your wishes.”

If an aging person needs only non-skilled services, there are services available for homemaking and personal care. Home health aides can help with activities of daily living, such as bathing, skin care, and even getting dressed. Aides also may assist with homemaking duties such as light housecleaning, laundry and meal preparation.

It might take some coordination and some work, but finding services to remain in one’s home can be a gratifying solution for everyone.

Also read our article, When Is Home Care Needed?

When Is Home Care Needed?

shutterstock_118880965Sometimes it’s obvious home health care is needed. Perhaps your parent was in the hospital and has been discharged, but requires skilled nursing or therapy until they’ve completely recovered. These services can be provided at home, whether home is a private residence, apartment, condo, or assisted living facility

But sometimes it’s harder to know whether a loved one needs help to safely remain in their home.

Genn Bervig, director of Admissions and Social Services at Eventide, offers a few tips that may clue you into whether a loved one needs some support services at home:

  • Look in the fridge and cupboards. Are there old or expired items? Do they have enough food and nutritious food available?
  • Are medications being taken on time? Is your parent taking expired medications? Are they taking all their medications?
  • Check out the bathroom and bedroom. Are there any signs of incontinence?
  • Look around the house and at your parent or friend. Are things clean? Are they bathing regularly and keeping clothes clean? Do they have any skin break down (sores) from poor hygiene?
  • Ask your aging senior when they last saw a physician. Are they making it to their medical appointments?
  • Take your parent for a drive. Let them drive and navigate. How do they do?
  • Talk to your loved one’s neighbors. They often know things and see things that you don’t. Also, your parents may mention something to them that they wouldn’t mention to an adult child.

“Observe with your eyes wide open,” Bervig says. “Be open to want you might see and not just what you want to see.”

For more information on Home Care, read our article, What Types of Home Care Are Available?

Eventidings Newsletter | Winter 2016

Our Winter 2016 newsletter is now available! In it you’ll find:

  • A Jamestown resident visits his farm, made possible by Eventide’s Daydream Project
  • Eventide Senior Living’s new mission and vision
  • An update from the Eventide Foundation

 

Resident Stories: In Service to Our Country

In honor of Veterans Day, we will feature several residents of Eventide Senior Living Communities who are veterans. A special thank you to those featured for sharing their special stories.

Veteran Spotlight: Verdie Ellingson, Eventide on Eighth, Linden Tree Circle

verdie3verdie4Verdie Ellingson is a proud veteran of World War II, but how he came to be a part of the war wasn’t exactly what he’d expected.

What Verdie had expected was to be drafted soon after he graduated from high school. He looked forward to serving his country. Upon graduation, he was told that he would not be drafted – his older brothers were already were serving and he was expected to stay back and help on the family farm. Verdie took this and made the best of it, speaking to the character that still is ever present in the man today.

Although Verdie wasn’t drafted when he thought he would be, his time would come. Verdie had enrolled in his first semester of coverdiekoreallege at Luther College in Dechorah, Iowa, when his draft letter came. In 1946, even after the war had ended, the draft continued. There was still work to be done. Anyone who served in the military up until December of 1946 is a World War II veteran.

Verdie was stationed in Korea as a radio teletype operator, sending messages to Japan. Verdie compares the teletype work to early computer work. Not only was the work he did there purposeful, but the experience of living in another country for two years was what Verdie calls outstanding. He was immersed in the Korean culture and enjoyed getting to know many of the people living there, including a young man he worked with in a civilian job when he wasn’t fulfilling his service work.

After two years in Korea, Verdie was discharged from the army and returned to his family farm near Montevideo, Minn., until he could return to Luther College to finish his education in the fall of that year. Verdie graduated from Luther in 1950 with a degree in business education with a minor in history – Verdie loved and still loves history. Verdie was a teacher until he earned his master’s degree in education administration in Missoula, Montana. He then worked as a principal before becoming super intendent of schools in Glencoe, Minn.

Along the way, during the time when he was in college, Verdie married the love of his life, Norma. Many use the term “love of his life,” but if you ever have a chance to hear Verdie talk about Norma, you’ll know that no other words are truer or could be used. The couple had four children and 10 grandchildren.

When they retired, Verdie and Norma moved to Moorhead, Minn., to be close to two of their children. After Norma developed rheumatoid arthritis, the couple moved to Eventide on Eighth into an apartment in Linden Tree Circle. Norma passed away in 2011 and Verdie continues to live at Linden Tree where he is active in the community.

In October of 2015, Verdie had the opportunity to go on the WDAY Honor Flight. He brought his son Todd along and Verdie toured Washington D.C. with fellow veterans. He’s proud of his service to his country and had an amazing experience on the trip.

Today, on November 11, 2016 – Veterans Day, we’re thankful to you, Verdie, and all of the veterans!

Veteran Spotlight: Earl Roesler, Eventide Sheyenne Crossings

earl1 earl2In 1942, at 23 years old, Earl Roesler’s life changed. He went from working on his farm near Leonard, ND, to being drafted into the army during WWII.

Earl found himself at Camp Joseph T. Robinson in Little Rock, Arkansas. There he went through basic training. When completed, he and other soldiers would check the bulletin board to see what opportunities were available so they could leave infantry training. A position for a cook caught Earl’s eye and he signed up, although not too excited. Then he saw an opportunity for an auto mechanic – this was something he could get into! Next to farming, mechanical work was a hobby he really enjoyed. And so began Earl’s adventure in the army as a mechanic.

After spending time on Angel’s Island near San Francisco, not knowing what the future had instore, Earl stepped foot on a ship. Twenty-one days later, he found himself at the Fiji Islands. The soldiers lived near a seaport and did mechanical work. After nearly two years on the Fiji Islands, Earl again found himself on a ship. On their next adventure, the soldiers crossed the equator, Earl noting it being a strange thing to see.

“That’s quite the experience, crossing the equator,” says Earl. “All you could see was water. Looking west of the ship, the water was blue, looking east of the ship, the water was green. It was a line between blue and green across the hemisphere.”

This time when the ship reached its destination, Earl was on the Solomon Islands, where there was very little civilization and an active volcano, something he was always aware of. Earl and his fellow soldiers occupied one end of the island, while Japanese soldiers occupied the other end. After the Solomon Islands, Earl was sent to the Philippines. The island offered very hot days – once up to 126 degrees, but mostly around 100+ degrees – and cold nights. Although the temperature would stay around 80 at night, the air was so damp that the soldiers would shiver beneath many layers of blankets. It was nothing like back home. While there, the war ended.

On November 1, 1945, Earl arrived by train to Casselton. He went back to farming where he grew many acres of grains over the years, while also raising cattle in the winter months. In 1951, he married his wife and together they raised five children. Earl and his wife eventually started spending winters near Orlando, which allowed Earl to golf all year long, something he very much enjoyed. Earl lives at Eventide Sheyenne Crossings, is 97 years old, and has five generations below him with the farm still in the family.

Veteran Spotlight: Robert J. Sarbaum, Eventide Jamestownrobertsarbaum

Robert J. Sarbaum was drafted in 1946 when he was 23 years old. He trained at Fort Snelling in Minnesota as MP (military police) and was stationed in California. His role was to provide security for the German prisoners of war (POWs) held at the POW camp. He served in this role for two years, received the WWII Victory Medal and remains a member of his local VFW today.  

Upon honorable discharge from the army, he and his wife Myrna farmed near his hometown of Marion, North Dakota. Today, he lives at Eventide Jamestown.

Veteran Spotlight: Tim Kurtz, Eventide Heartlandtimkurtz

In 1947, at the age of 17, Tim Kurtz joined the National Guard, wanting to join his brothers in serving his country.

“It means a lot to me,” he says. “To have served my country with my seven brothers, all of us serving in the Army.  It made my father so proud that every one of us was able to serve our country.”

Tim began his service at Camp Rucker in Alabama and then went on to Fort Worth, Texas. After receiving an honorable discharge, Tim returned to his hometown of Devils Lake where he worked in a furniture store and also assisted in a carpet installation business with his older brother.

When Tim was 22 he married his wife Mary Anne. In January they will celebrate their 65th wedding anniversary. The couple raised two daughters and three sons; they lost a three-year-old son who had cerebral palsy. timkurtz1

Tim’s special interests have included woodworking, gardening, helping others and following his Catholic faith.  An avid football fan since he was a child, Tim continues to follow his favorite teams, the North Dakota State University Bison and Minnesota Vikings.

Thank you, Tim, for your service to our country!

 

Veteran Spotlight: Sheila McMullen, Eventide Fairmont

Moorhead native Sheila McMullen has always been up for adventure. After finishing nursing school in Valley City, ND, Sheila was a nurse at St. Ansgar Hospital in Moorhead and then moved to Minneapolis to continue her work as a nurse. Living in the big city was exciting, but still, she wanted to do more. Following in himg_5288er father’s and brothers’ footsteps, she joined the military to put her nursing skills to work for her country. After enlisting in the Air Force, even more adventure ensued. Sheila completed basic training and then spent two years in San Antonio, Texas – a place she very much enjoyed. Later, she was stationed in England where she served as a nurse to men who’d been injured in Vietnam and were transitioning – either to go back home to the United States or to finish their duties elsewhere after they were restored back to health.

As a nurse, she knew how to help the injured, and as an empathetic person who enjoyed her work in mental health, she knew how to connect to the soldiers who’d been injured in war. The service was meaningful and rewarding and her role was important. img_5285fullsizerender

“I worked with great people and it was an honor to serve,” says Sheila.

Being in England offered Sheila an opportunity to go on another adventure she often dreamed of, one that meant something on a different level – she got to go to Ireland. Some of Sheila’s ancestors were from Ireland and she’d always embraced a deep interest in those roots.

Although Sheila considered staying in the military, she decided 10 years was the right amount of time for that adventure. After leaving as a Captain, she returned to the Moorhead area where she could be close to her family, continue her career as a nurse and embark on another adventure – learning. Sheila has always had an intense interest in history and politics which led her to get a degree in international relations at Concordia College. After earning her bachelor’s degree, she still continued with the work she loved – nursing – until she retired. Today, she continues to have a passion for learning – something she fulfills by reading many books while living at Eventide Fairmont.

Thank you, Sheila, for your service to our country!

Join Us for the Annual Eventide Benefit Auction

Join us at the Eventide Benefit Auction on Friday, October 28 at 6 p.m. at Hilton Garden Inn, Fargo.

Entertainment by Fun Pianos! By 176 Keys

Wine tasting courtesy of Happy Harry’s Bottle Shops

Hors d’oeuvres and Silent Auction

This year, proceeds of the auction will benefit residents with the purchase of a new It’s Never 2 Late system. With this program a simple press of a button launches hundreds of applications – including music, games, travel, exercise and more. From using e-mail to connect with family and friends, to enjoying mind stimulating activities and entertainment, to improving hand-eye coordination as part of a rehabilitation program, seniors with a wide range of physical and cognitive abilities, are now enjoying technology using systems adapted especially for them. Read more about the system here.

To register for the Eventide Benefit Auction, click here, select “Other” under donation amount and input the amount that reflects how many tickets you would like.  Tickets for the event are $75/person.

Contact Trudy at Trudy.latozke@eventide.org for sponsorship opportunities and levels.

An Educational Event: Mom, Dad … Can We Talk? Insight and Perspectives to Help Us Do What’s Best for Our Aging Parents

dickedwards-edit mdcwt-final-coverEventide invites you to join Dick Edwards, author of Mom, Dad … Can We Talk?, for a conversation on adult children and their aging parents – it’s a timeless and timely topic. Join us as we host an event with author Dick Edwards who specializes in conversations that make a difference as our parents grow older.

Edwards, author of Mom, Dad … Can We Talk? Insight and Perspectives to Help Us Do What’s Best for Our Aging Parents will be at Eventide Fargo on October 4 at 6 p.m. and at Eventide Jamestown on October 5 at noon.

The events are free and open to the public, but space is limited, so please register.

Registration for the Eventide Fargo (hors d’oeuvres included) event: dickedwardsfargo.eventbrite.com

Registration for the Eventide Jamestown event (lunch included): dickedwardsjamestown.eventbrite.com

Or call 218.291.2206

This event is sponsored by Eventide Senior Living Communities and FM Area Foundation.

Residents Share Wedding Dresses and Memories

IMG_1465White lace and silk dresses. Beautifully decorated cakes. Bubbles floating through the air. A punch bowl and pastel mints.

Sounds like a day of love and wedded bliss, doesn’t it? It was, but it wasn’t an actual wedding.

Residents of Sheyenne Crossings gathered the afternoon of June 22 to share wedding dresses, photos and memories of their special days. It was a joyful celebration for everyone present, many of those thinking their days of showing off their wedding attire were a thing of the past. (See photos below.)

The event was called “Say Yes to the Dress,” complete with a showcase of wedding dresses that the women not only said yes to, but wore down the aisle many years ago.

“They absolutely loved it,” said Becky Butenhoff, life enrichment coordinator and organizer of the event. “Residents and their children came. There were laughter and tears. They really had a great time reliving those memories.”

The afternoon was rich with love and stories that were shared.

Nadine Wigtil told of her double wedding with her sister. Her sister lived in Washington and came home for their wedding. When the sisters opened their garment bags to show one another their wedding dresses, they discovered they had each purchased the same dress!

Gladys Rust’s story involves her passion for softball. She was playing for the Twinette’s team and about to head off to the national tournament when her future husband decided he better ask Gladys to marry him before she went to Texas for the tournament and found someone else. Not only did they get married, but Gladys’ team won the national championship!

Vera Kummer shared that she eloped with her husband because her family didn’t like him. The couple enjoyed a long, happy marriage.

Eleanore “Ellie” Radtke’s story is nothing short of interesting. Her fiancé George came home from Japan during World War II with the thought that he would be home and start a life with his new wife. Unfortunately, he was called back to military service and had only two weeks before he would have to leave. George proposed to Ellie and they had to plan the wedding quickly. During WWII, it was very hard to find white satin material. Ellie and her sister made her wedding dress out of “heavenly blue material.”

The couple’s wedding cake also posed a challenge. During the war sugar was not easy to find. In order to make a wedding cake, George and Ellie and all the neighbors rationed all their sugar so they could have a cake for their wedding day.

These stories and others were shared the afternoon of the event and each memory brought joy to all those in attendance. This was the first time Sheyenne Crossings hosted the event, but it was so popular, Becky assures they will do it again.